The 20 Something Breakdown Women Go Through

What is it about your twenties that says go ahead, have a breakdown?

It happens to all of us, usually women, men hold off on their midlife crisis. It can happen anywhere from teens to our mid 30's. All of a sudden the world that has been moving so fast comes to a creeping halt.

You have started to look in the mirror, you question who you are, where you're going, what makes you happy, what you believe in, do you love him, do you love her, are you a good mom, do you want to be a mom, will have have healthy kids, what if you don't, is your marriage strong, was the is the wedding what you really want, are you in the right career, what career, did you miss your big moment, did you fail your marriage, do you want marriage, do you even know what you're dong right now?
Then you realize you know none of the answers, and you conclude you're miserable and you know nothing.


You might hold it in, it might not be too bad, or you might experience Mt. Lifesuvious. You might make drastic decisions, hurt people along the way, you ARE going to make good and bad decisions that make good and bad circumstances, you might run away, you might push away, you might burrow into a hole, you might quit school, start school, quit a job, move to another country...the possibilities are endless.

For plenty of women this happens before or after a big event; college, graduation, wedding, baby, buying a house, moving, jobs, etc.

For others it's when life gets quiet, you get into a routine, the chaos has come to an end, and you've taken an out of body look around.

There are a million times and reasons this happens.

I think that we've been breed in a time of change. Do we work hard, get the ladder climbing career, follow the game of life, get a spouse, marry, buy a house, have kids?

Do we fight the norm find our passion and figure out what exactly it is that makes us happy? What's that saying anyway, "do work that makes you happy" I'd like an instructional on that.

It all becomes too confusing and too much. Some of us were raised to nurture our thoughts, interests, and challenge who we are, and what we want. Some of us not so much.

If you've been here you know you rocked your own world, turned it upside down, and drove everyone you know to the edge, and tested every relationship you had. I know, you gained a few and lost several. Those people were meant to either come or go...just move on.

There's no one way to get past this time in your life. It takes all of your faith, energy, sanity, friends, family, trail and error, and nerve to beat it. 

I have come to think that this is the time that shapes your life the most. What comes to define who you are, and how important YOU really are to you. 

You have to make choices, really hard ones, some will be made with attitude, anger, and spite, while others will be made in a ball, in a corner, crying your eyes out.

Expect a break down....or a dozen. Be prepared to feel like a failure, like nothing, empty, sad, and hopeless. Then be ready to feel like a cage fighter, a free spirit, and nothing like yourself.

My only advice to anyone who is in this moment of their life or due to expect it is this:

Keep your faith or find your faith.

Sleep on it...for a week, before doing anything.
Listen to nobody, but hear what others have to offer.

If you have even an ounce of doubt inside, DO NOT DO IT.

Feel bad for nothing you need to do for your own happiness, whether it turns out right or wrong.

You are young, people are still going to school in their 70's, life is not over until it's over.
Whatever you missed out on, there are others that missed out on what you did.

We all have our own path and time line, someone else's is NOT YOURS.

We have kids, marriages, careers, moves, and luck on our own time, do not envy or compare.

What you want but don't have will come, you are going to want things so desperately, but sometimes you must grow first, IT WILL COME.

You do know, you just aren't listening to yourself.

IT WILL BE OK.

Don't let anyone "fix" you, that's your job.
STAY OFF OF FACEBOOK
You have to do this yourself.
Do not broadcast your every thought, you'll be irrational, but try to maintain class and a good name for yourself.
You are not crazy, a failure, or a appointment's, you're just going through a time right now, it too will pass.
Don't throw in the towel and take back your decisions, see them through, and have confidence in what you do.
Clean out your social closet.
You will never be happy for others, you will make others happy being happy for you.

Be ready for clean up when the smoke has cleared. Not many are going to understand what you just went through, many will judge why you did the things you did, and others will just write you off.

You need to be responsible for your actions...made in sanity or not. It's very likely that you'll need to work to show others that you've had to do what you did to become the person you crawled out of the ashes to be.

Anyone that has gone through this, welcome to the club survivor! Let go of those nagging worries and regrets. The people you lost were not meant to be in your life forever, and that's ok. Miss them, but don't mourn them. In time if it's meant to be you'll reconnect, in the mean time live that life you worked so hard to live.

Don't second guess anything, you are who you are, whether you're clear on that now or not.  It's all over and you ended up right where you were suppose to.

You could be in a worse place, hitting the very bottom, a good place, a lonely place, but it's the place where you're due to be. Maybe to rise up from there, maybe you've landed in your perfect harmony, or maybe you're just content in knowing you're just at a new beginning, and working to find the answers that seemed so crucial and mind numbing...that are now just things you'll have to adventure.

This is our test, it really hurts, and it's really ugly, but good thing we were made so strong. Don't fear this time that you're in, just work through each day at a time, and it will be in your past.

My Worth It Everyday Products

Does this look familiar? No? How about this...



Yea, I thought so, your makeup drawer at one time or another right, or if your pinterest account had a drawer, am I right?!

A life is full of makeup, products, and crazy tools, they suck you in! You pass the aisle, or you dare walk into Sephora or Ulta, and you black out. The colors, the shapes, the promises...there's no stopping the beauty beast.


 Now, let's be honest, even if you found the perfect one of everything, you'd still buy everything else just to try it! You already do. You have favorites, but you buy things anyway. My question here is, are they the best products or just the best products you've found?

Allow me to first suggest a cheaper, and fun way to try all the latest girl thrills.
Ipsy Subscription Box

This is one of the more affordable subscription boxes at $10/month. You receive a handful of items based on your likes and interestes.  You answer a few questions so the creators can get an understanding of the products you're most interested in, then every month you receive a bag of products. No membership, no fuss, cancel any time, it's well worth it!

Now, if you are looking for those items that are your go to favorites, let me help! I'm a pretty judgmental person when it comes to what I buy. I LOVE products, but I have my favorites, and I've become quite the critical user, I don't want to doubt what I'm about to grab at 5:30 in the morning, or on a perfect night out. 

 Let's start the roll call with a girls number one beauty must have, mascara!

When it comes to a worthy mascara I look for it to give me everyday light, natural, soft lashes. I'm not a girl looking for heavy, spidery, goopey peepers, and that's what most mascaras give you.

The winner at $5.51: Maybelline Full n' Soft

It's separates, darkens, lifts, lengthens, and spreads your lashes perfectly, and you can layer as needed for more dramatic moments, and for summer try the waterproof. 

Beachy hair spray a.k.a Surf Spray or Salt Water Spray

On this item I'm looking for what I get from good ol' mother nature; texture, fullness, wave, THAT SMELL, but with less stickiness.
 

The winner at $6.29: Not Your Mothers Texturing Sea Salt Spray

I've taken my own bottles from the ocean, made my own in the kitchen, and spent a fortune on different brands for at least the last 10 years. This one takes the cake, not too expensive, easy to use, light and not sticky. Remember, this is sea salt spray, it is slightly tacky, it creates texture, but my hair can still have softness in the end. I also use this to give my fine flat hair some volume, just spray a little in your hands, rub together, and massage into dry roots!

A perfect palette. I don't like using a lot of anything on my skin, but sometimes you need to even out your tone, prevent shine, and just give yourself a little color.


$33 Laura Geller Balance and Brighten in Medium
This is a great product for any age. It's light, can provide full coverage, a natural color with a kiss of sun...but won't give you any bronzy streaks, you can place shades where you want them, or be unified all over...pretty cool in one product huh? Don't be overwhelmed by the marbling, you're not going to mess anything up, it's user friendly and fool proof. I have a light complexion, and the medium is my summer pick.



$15 Mac Omega Eyeshadow
Yea, you knew I was going Mac. You just can't beat some of their pigments. For me Mac stays put, it doesn't break down to dust, you can use it wet or dry, and this color is a great everyday choice, for all eye colors.
If this isn't for you I'd also recommend, Patina, Sumptuous Olive, Tempting, Woodwinked, and Retrospeck....all Mac, all great for daily drivers, I can't help myself.



$18 Lip Tar in Jealous
I know I'm getting expensive on you. For me, when I have those items that work, and last I don't have to search for others or replace it often. This lip stain is a perfect pinkish red. At first I applied way too much and almost cried at the look. To start, just lightly dab and press your lips together and spread the color, then build until you have your perfect shade. This pinkish red is very refreshing and clean, it gives you that natural color you wish you had. Don't google for colors, I found nothing but heavy applications with a ton of gloss. You should also try this in Harlot, this one has almost a post popcicle color, again a fresh and natural, but you need to build your color.

$5 Nivea Extended Moisture Lotion
Oh the choices you have here. I'be been bouncing around lotions for quite some time, but have found a favorite in Nivea. I typically favor body butters or a more oily option, but this one is easy to apply, not too thick or sticky, and absorbs very well.



$3 St. Ives Apricot Scrub
 An oldie and a goody. My 2 favorite uses, cleaning up some dingy skin, and scrubbing down some dry soles...really good for keeping blackheads at away.



$10 Infusium 23 Leave-In Conditioner
I've been using this since I was born....I swear. I have tried everything Bumble and Bumble, Tresemme, Pantene, Biolage, etc. Nothing can compete for me here. I choose this time and time again because it keeps my hair healthy and strong when I'm a fine haired girl with no hair to spare. I simply can't live without this product.

Will you be making any of these your new favorite things? They've never lead me wrong, and I hope they can be your favorite go to's also.

 Next finds on my list...hair spray, dry shampoo, hair wax, blow dryer, straightener, and brush. Here's to the hunt!

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Saved by Cupid - Perfect Valentine's

I know you all love it, just when the holiday stress begins to feel like a dream, boom, it's your most tense holiday of them all...Valentine's Day.

I personally love this holiday. I think it's always a great idea to remind those we love that we just simply adore them, but I know most of you blame marketing and candy companies.

I know too many of you feel (maybe expect...hmmm) that you can only have a Valentine's Day by giving/receiving something glamorous. That's a lame shame.

This is Valentine's Day, just a fluffy, heart filled, candy coated, glittery day to make one another feel special.

So, here are some of my favorite Valentine gifts. Ladies, don't be greedy, your fellas deserve some extra appreciation too, and don't forget your mom, dad, friends, nieces, or nephews too! Spread the love!

Shari's Berries - BEST EVER

they have more than strawberries!

Coupon Codes for Shari's Berries

$10.00 - Magnetic 3 in 1 Fisheye Lense (for smart phones)

Love Mug - Just fill with your own choice of candy.

Cupcake Wine - mmmmmm, good!

Junk Food Bouquet!

$30 Van Der Hagen Shave Set

$10 Van Der Hagen Shave Set

It's time they learn to do it right, eh.

At Target - Starbucks Coffee and Travel Mug

Items that can't be pictured:

A photo session - this is perfect for anyone!

A framed photo, make use of your apps and get a brilliant frame.

Does you man have a man cave? Stock it up with snacks and drinks!

A perfect date, the zoo, museum, theater shows, movies, drive in, lunch, dinner, the possibilities are endless...your attention and time is priceless.

Guys, if you are down to the wire here's your save.

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Happy Valentine's my little lovelies! Treat yourself to something sweet!